Anorgasmia is regular difficulty having an orgasm after plenty of sexual stimulation. It affects many women, causing distress.
Anorgasmia is delayed, infrequent or absent orgasms — or significantly less-intense orgasms — after sexual arousal and adequate sexual stimulation. Women who have problems with orgasms and who feel significant distress about those problems may be diagnosed with anorgasmia.
Among all women, the frequency and intensity of orgasms vary. Also, for any individual, orgasms can be different from one time to the next. The type and amount of stimulation needed to have an orgasm also varies.
Multiple factors may lead to anorgasmia. These include relationship or intimacy issues, cultural factors, physical or medical conditions, and medications. Treatments can include education about sexual stimulation, sexual enhancement devices, individual or couple therapy, and medications.
Female orgasmic disorder is another term for the spectrum of problems with orgasms. The word "anorgasmia" specifically refers to not being able to have an orgasm, but it's also used as shorthand for female orgasmic disorders.
An orgasm is a peak feeling of intense pleasure in response to stimulating sexual activity.
Vaginal penetration during sex indirectly stimulates the clitoris. But this may not be enough stimulation for orgasm. Many women may also need direct manual or oral stimulation of the clitoris to reach orgasm.
Anorgasmia, or female orgasmic disorder, is defined as experiencing any of these in a significant way:
Absence of orgasm
Anorgasmia can also be:
Lifelong, if you've never had an orgasm
Acquired, if you have new problems with having orgasms
Situational, if you have problems with orgasm only in certain situations, with certain kinds of stimulation or with certain partners
Generalized, if you have problems with orgasm in any situation
Women who don't always reach orgasm during sexual encounters may not find it distressing. In that case, the lack of an orgasm is not considered a disorder.
When to see a doctor
Talk to your health care provider if you have concerns about your sex life, especially if you're concerned about your ability to have an orgasm.
Sexual arousal and orgasms are complex reactions to various physical, emotional, sensory and psychological factors. Difficulties in any of these areas can affect your ability to have an orgasm.
Personal and psychological factors
Past experiences, behaviors, background or mental well-being may contribute to problems with orgasms. These include:
Past sexual or emotional abuse
Lack of knowledge about sexual stimulation or interactions
Poor body image
Guilt or embarrassment about sex
Cultural or religious beliefs about sex
Stressors, such as financial problems or loss of a loved one
Mental health conditions, such as anxiety or depression
Problems with your sex partner may be contributing factors to problems with orgasms. These may include:
Lack of emotional intimacy
Poor communication of sexual needs and preferences
Infidelity or breach of trust
Intimate partner violence
Partner's sexual dysfunction, such a male partner with erectile dysfunction
A wide range of illnesses, physical changes and medications can interfere with orgasms:
Health conditions. Long-term conditions — such as diabetes, overactive bladder or multiple sclerosis — may be contributing or complicating factors in orgasm disorders.
Gynecological treatments. Tissue damage from gynecologic surgeries, such as hysterectomy or cancer surgery, may affect the ability to have an orgasm.
Medications. Many prescription and nonprescription medications can inhibit orgasm, including blood pressure medications, antipsychotic drugs, antihistamines and antidepressants — particularly selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).
Alcohol and smoking. Alcohol suppresses the nervous system and may hamper the ability to have an orgasm. Smoking can limit blood flow to your sexual organs, affecting your ability to have an orgasm.
Age-related changes to the body. Changes to the body after menopause or later in life may contribute to various types of sexual dysfunction.
Related sexual disorders
Women experiencing anorgasmia may have one or more related sexual problems. These may contribute to or complicate the problem with having orgasms. These conditions include:
Problems with sexual arousal
Little or no desire for sex
Pain from sexual intercourse or other sexual stimulation
Dryness of the vagina or vulva
Involuntary tightening of the vagina (vaginismus)
Your primary care provider or gynecologist will review your medical history and conduct a general medical exam and pelvic exam. These exams may identify physical conditions that contribute to problems having orgasms.
Your provider may ask you questions about your experiences with orgasms and other related issues. You may also receive a questionnaire to fill out that answers these questions. You may be asked about:
Your recent and past sexual experiences
Your partner or partners
How you feel about your sexual experiences
The types of stimulation or sexual activity you engage in
Your provider may want to talk with both you and your partner or meet with your partner separately.
Treatment for anorgasmia depends on what's contributing to the problem. Possible treatments include lifestyle changes, therapy and medication. If an underlying medical condition is contributing to anorgasmia, your provider will recommend appropriate treatment.
Lifestyle changes and therapy
Treatment for anorgasmia usually begins with one or more approaches to understand your body better, learn what works for you and change behaviors. These treatments may include:
Education. Your provider will likely begin with a discussion of female sexual anatomy and how different parts of the anatomy respond to stimulation. This conversation can help you address any questions, clear up any misunderstandings and help you understand the purpose of other recommended treatments. Your provider also may recommend educational materials.
Directed masturbation. This program of instruction and at-home exercises helps you become familiar with your own body and explore self-directed sexual stimulation. After you have learned to bring yourself to orgasm, the knowledge about what you have learned is practiced with your partner.
Sensate focus. This approach for couples provides instruction and at-home exercises. It begins with non-erotic touch and gradually introduces more intimate touch and sexual stimulation. A goal is for each partner to understand the other person's needs and to learn how to communicate and direct each other in order to reach orgasms.
Changes in sexual positions. Your provider may recommend changes in sexual positions that increase stimulation of the clitoris during vaginal sex.
Sexual enhancement devices. Devices that enhance sexual stimulation may assist you in having an orgasm. These include vibrators and air-pulsating devices that stimulate the clitoris. Another device held over the clitoris creates mild suction to increase blood flow. Your provider may recommend using them alone to understand what works for you and then trying them with your partner.
Cognitive-behavioral therapy. Individual or couples therapy may help you address your thinking about sex in general or with your partner. Therapy can help with behaviors that may promote good sexual relations, such as learning ways to talk with your partner about sex or communicate your needs during sex.
Although some medications have been tested for treating anorgasmia, there's not enough evidence to support their use. Hormone replacement therapies may have some benefit, but they have risks that require careful monitoring. These include:
Estrogen therapy. If you are receiving treatment for menopausal symptoms, the treatment may also have some effect on improved sexual experience. Also, a low-dose estrogen therapy for the vagina, such as a cream or suppository, can improve blood flow to the genitals and improve lubrication of the vagina. Long-term use of estrogen pills is associated with a risk of breast cancer and cardiovascular disease.
Testosterone therapy. For some postmenopausal women who have testosterone levels lower than what is considered typical for women, testosterone replacement may improve arousal and orgasms. Side effects may include acne, excess body hair, a decline in HDL or "good" cholesterol, and risks similar to estrogen replacement therapy.
Natural products, such as those made with L-arginine or Russian olive tree extract, are marketed for improving women's sex lives. They have been studied in very small trials using multiple herbal products or combined with other drugs or lifestyle management programs. There isn't enough data to know if they have any treatment effect.
Talk with your provider before trying natural therapies, which can cause side effects and interact with other medications.
Preparing for an appointment
If your lack of orgasm from sexual activity distresses you, make an appointment with your primary care provider or your gynecologist. Here's some information to help you prepare for your appointment.
What you can do
Make a list of the following items that are important to share with your provider:
Your symptoms, when you first began having problems with orgasms and under what circumstances the problems occurred
Your sexual history, including relationships and experiences since you became sexually active and any history of sexual trauma or abuse
Medical conditions you have, including mental health conditions
Medications, vitamins and other supplements you take, including doses
Questions you have about sexual activities or healthy sexual relationships
What to expect from your doctor
In addition to the information you prepare, your health care provider will likely ask questions to understand your sexual experiences, your ability to reach orgasm and your thoughts about your sexual relationship. You might think about answers to the following questions:
Are you sexually active now?
How many partners do you have now?
Does your partner identify as a man, woman or nonbinary?
What kind of sexual activities do you engage in?
Do you become sexually aroused during sexual interactions with your partner?
How satisfied are you with your sexual relationship with your partner? Has your satisfaction changed over time?
How satisfied were you with a previous partner?
Have you been able to have orgasms in the past?
Is difficulty having an orgasm only with certain activities?
Are you able to have an orgasm with masturbation?
Do you have pain with vaginal penetration or other sexual activity?
Do you use protection during sex?
Have you had a sexual transmitted disease?
Are you currently trying to come pregnant or have concerns about becoming pregnant?
Do you use birth control?
Do you use alcohol or recreational drugs? How much?
What messages about sex did you receive growing up?
How satisfied are you overall with your current relationship?